For God, Family and America
Patriotic Revival Seminar

Lesson 11

“Husbands, love your wives, ....”  Ephesians 5:25


Mr. and Mrs. Bruce Barilla


     “I remember watching Marty during a time of loneliness and it gave me hope.” anonymous


     In this movie Lou Gehrig sides with his wife, rather than his mother, when choosing wallpaper and bedroom furniture.

Best Years DVD

     A true story of true love being more powerful than a soldier’s loss of both hands during WW II.


“For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and the two shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24



Are you speaking your mate’s 5 Love Languages?

Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch



1. Put in order of importance for you:
2. Related to any past relationships:
3. Related to present relationship:
4. Are you doing your part? How change?



Men: Avoid being “Mr. Fix-it.”
Women: Avoid being the
 “home improvement committee.”





Study Guide for The 5 Love Languages

Men and women think different! Duh?



Wives, disrespecting your husbands is a mistake!

“An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones.” Proverbs 12:4

“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.”  Proverbs 14:1

“It is better to live in a corner of a roof, than in a house shared with a contentious woman.”  Proverbs 21:9


“Feminism is not feminine.”

     In this movie the future Mrs. Peter Marshall,  a young college coed,  gives a speech explaining femininity to a rowdy crowd at an area youth rally.


     “...and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.” Eph. 5:33

     “Older women likewise are to reverent in their behavior, ... that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, ... that the word of God may not be dishonored.”  Titus 2:3-5

     “In the same way, you wives, be submissive [easy to get along with] to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chase and respectful behavior. And let not your adornment be merely external - braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a quiet and gentle spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.”  1Peter 3:1-4

The Honeymooners DVD

Personally Recommended Episodes

#13. ‘TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS Rather then being critical or unappreciative of the Napoleon Bonaparte orange juice squeezer given to her by Ralph, Alice says, “Oh, Ralph, it’s perfect!”

#27. HEAD OF THE HOUSE  Alice depicts, in 20th century fashion, what it means to be like Abraham’s wife, Sarah, when unexpected visitors were invited for dinner.  (Genesis 18:1-8, IPeter 3:1-6)



Personally Recommended Movies

Fireproof DVD03


Sample Marriage Vows

“I (groom) _______ take you (bride) _______ to be my lawfully wedded wife ... to love you as Christ loves the church ... for better or for worse ... for richer or for poorer ... in sickness and in health ... being true to you ... with the help of God our Father ... until death do us part.”

“I (bride) _______ take you (groom) _______ to be my lawfully wedded husband ... to be your helpmate ... to respect and obey ... for better or for worse ... for richer or for poorer ... in sickness and in health ... being true to you ... with the help of God our Father ... until death do us part.”


     Beloved, ‘I urge you as aliens and strangers to abstain from fleshly lusts, which wage war against the soul.’  1Peter2:11


Conquer Series
The Battle for Purity

Every Man’s Battle Workshop

Have you ever considered a marriage conference?

FAMILY LIFE presents Weekend to Remember

Love and Respect Conferences



A single young girl asked the preacher:
   “How do I know my boyfriend loves me?”
Preacher answered:
“No sex before marriage. If he loves you so much he will wait.”



“Everybody wants to love and to be loved.”

“I could have written a book on loneliness.”

“I’m not saying it is right, but people will do almost anything to be loved.”


“Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will
give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4

Bonus Lesson:

“And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”  Ephesians 6:4

“Fathers, do not exasperate your children, that they may not lose heart.”  Colossians 3:21



Harry Chapin



Harry Chapin

     “But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever.” 1Timothy 5:8


Cats in the Cradle



All Rules - Relationship = Rebellion

Pillsbury Doughboy:
All Relationship - Any Rules = Chaos

Relationship + Rules = Respect


End of Lesson 11


This lesson lovingly dedicated to my wife, Theodora Lindsey Grubb Barilla.